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Not Thankful Thursday

It's Thursday. I should be thankful.

This is the one day each week (I can only muster one?) in which I gather up my gratitudes and express appreciation for people, places, things and more. 

But I'm not feeling generous. 

The West is on fire. The East is in floods. An old man is deporting children. And I haven't written a good poem in months. To say I'm cranky indicates a temporary state. Let's just give up the look-on-the-bright-side banter. 

For years I've believed wholly, deeply, not-quite-religiously in the power of positive thinking. What you focus on becomes. What you resist, persists. I really do believe that gratitude is a powerful and valuable way to pivot from despair to repair to release to rejoice. Sounds corny, I know. But the weekly pause for gratitude helps to counter my small self and petty complaints, along with all the big world aches that crush the spirit. Until now, when the big and small overwhelm my ability to "find the good."

Turns out, I'm not alone. Writer and comedian Liz Brown says she was saved by the Ingratitude List.  

"Gratitude lists didn't help me one bit. Writing them was a practice that drove me deeper into shame and self-loathing when I was already in a very dark place," she writes. "Gratitude lists imply that those of us who are in pain are choosing misery and just aren't working hard enough and that if we just think happy thoughts we'll float up above our problems like the kids in Peter Pan."

Ron Lubke, writing for the Dallas News, has been called "entertainingly grumpy" in his disdain for the gratitude list. Among the many things he's not thankful for are "bathroom stall talkers. I just want to play Yahtzee on my phone in peace." 

Today, I am thankful for my bathtub. That's all I got.


It's Not Thankful Thursday, how are you? 



Reader Comments (6)

I always look forward to your posts. This one has feeling a little gratitude for the fact that, even when I'm feeling anxious about the world, or blue for any given reason, at some point the mood will change. Maybe that's a sign that the cup (for me) is neither half-full nor half-empty but always a little of both.

September 7, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterDeborah Batterman

Oh Deborah,
Now you've stirred my gratitude. Thank you for taking the time to read and respond. "Always a little of both" is a good way to live.

Write on!
- Drew

September 7, 2017 | Registered CommenterDrew

Bathtubs are the best. And, if I can't do gratitude, there's appreciation, and celebration of the natural world, I think that's the best I can do. We all have our little tricks;).

September 7, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterLisa

It is raining, at least. You can imagine the ripples on the water as you're bubbling in your bath. ;)

September 7, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterHeather T.

You are so right. We each have our "tricks." For me, Thankful Thursdays have jolted me out of my petty complaints. It's also okay to take a break, though even while writing this I'm thinking that I'm thankful for my morning coffee, my soft bed, a good book . . .

As always, thanks for reading.


September 8, 2017 | Registered CommenterDrew

Yes, yes, I love that tub! And a cleansing rain is not too bad either, but y'know how I love the sun. . . . so nice to "see" you here. Thanks for reading & writing!

September 8, 2017 | Registered CommenterDrew

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